Re: NSF stats tell the story
"That's kind of the point - folks who care more about diversity than anything else have their say and dominate the conversation every day."
Maybe because, historically, women and PoC didn't have a voice. It's not until recent times that minorities can actually speak up without fear of persecution.
"At some point women have to take responsibiltiy for their own choices; it's not always the fault of the employer or other employees. As if women can't make their own choices and are herded like sheep into other fields because of men, employers, and the education system."
What I personally don't understand is your insistence on ignoring the sexism that pervades the IT community. As someone who works in the IT industry, writes about IT and is a woman, you'd have to be hiding under a rock to not see the countless articles that come out month after month describing the level of sexual harassment women face. Go ahead and type "IT industry sexism" into Google. Or read the Twitter accounts of women who've led established careers in technology and are finally speaking out because they're either retired, left the IT industry or are now independent contractors. It's everywhere, and you can cover your ears and hide from it as much as you want, but the problem is there, it's real, and it's not going to go away.
If you want to be ignorant about what happens to other people in this industry, that's on you. But don't write articles blaming women for not wanting to be part of a hostile work environment.
"And again, "blame" implies some kind of problem. No one has satisfiactorily answered why we're having this debate in the first place."
Then apparently you're not paying attention.